Your Maternity Session Is Not About Your Bump
9 months are flying by.
Even though you can only sleep with a minimum of 5 pillows and bread is your main food group, something about the work inside your body right now makes you feel like a rockstar. And you want to remember it.
Maternity photos used to be unheard of. Now they're trendy.
And because of that, there's this huge misconception surrounding maternity sessions - what they're supposed to look like, how you're supposed to dress, ya da ya da ya.
We've been conditioned, slowly but surely, to believe that a maternity session is a right of passage when you get pregnant. We follow this cookie cutter model and curl our hair and buy a new dress and imagine the dreamy, backlit glow.
These photos are lovely and yes, it feels darn good to get dressed up and just honor the beauty in pregnancy. You and your baby will never be one like this again, and it's truly an awesome thing to just celebrate that by getting in front of the camera in general, no matter how you choose.
But I want to challenge you take it a step further and think about what is it you truly want to "capture?"
WHY DO YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THIS?
And if your answer is "I just want to remember this season," Great!
But what about "this season" is so special to capture?
When I was pregnant with my daughter, there were snapshots of me throughout my pregnancy and of course, what I felt were the obligatory monthly "bumpie" photos, but when I considered a maternity session, I was torn. I didn't feel the desire to pose or do the standard thing, because it didn't feel authentic or purposeful.
Yes, friends, this maternity/newborn/family photographer did not book a maternity session of her own. Photos from my pregnancy consist of a few phone shots my husband took (so he's not in any of them) and are mostly just me in workout clothes. #truth.
I didn't know there was another option. The ironic thing is that these snapshots do something that I value - and that's telling a story of how I felt in my pregnancy - amazing, active, and excited. But the handful of these images only graze the surface!
I'd love to have pictures that showed Matt and I building her shelves and painting the walls of her nursery, or even how I used to meet him after work downtown to stroll the mall in the late summer warmth and get ice cream together. Every time she would kick, we would get silly excited and he would reach over to my belly to try to feel her.
Those frames of our life were true moments, reflections of our behavior in a special season of life. They're the story of our life before kids, something I know my daughter will want to know about some day, something that was a truly unique season in our marriage. And while we can share bits of it from fragmented memory 20 years from now, images have the ability capture truth and detail forever.
Now this may seem radical,
but I'm gonna put it out there anyways because I believe there's a mindset shift that needs to take place:
If you think about, I mean really sit with what's special and why you want to do a maternity session, I think you'll realize that --
this session is not about that baby growing on the inside...
...it's about capturing the world and the people he or she is about to meet on the outside.
It's not about staring at your belly button.
It's not about a perfect flowing gown.
It's not about the stunning, scenic location.
It's not about the wooden blocks spelling his name.
Because You, beautiful mama, are more than how you look.
Those things are beautiful, they're fun, but they don't really capture anything you can't flip through Pinterest and see a million other examples of. And isn't capturing truth and memories kindof the point?
If you want to "capture this season," we'll need more than cheeky props and perfect light.
The patience, the preparation, the hugs, the simplicity, the habits...Your STORY is what will make your maternity session special.
You may look at it and see boring or typical or messy...
but your children, now and in the future, will look at it and see their heritage.
- What if we could capture the feeling of sitting on a quiet, clean nursery floor and carefully folding all those little onesies into her drawer, gifted with love from family and friends?
- Or how your husband loves to clean his bike in the driveway on a summer evening while you just sit on the porch watching him from over your book, dreaming about your future son joining him with a soapy sponge.
- How a top knot and leggings are your signature Saturday style and all you want to do is watch bad morning TV and eat pancakes in bed with your man while you still can.
- How you feel like a million bucks even at 8 months strong, so while you get a little more winded these days, nothing makes you feel more alive than your heart pumping and the fresh air on your face when you take the dog for a brisk hike in the woods.
This is the stuff of memories.
So let me be clear -
I believe maternity sessions of all kinds, posed and unposed, styled or not, are beautiful because pregnancy is a beautiful thing.
But what if we could take a step beyond beautiful and also make them more real?
More of the home, the friends, the LOVE behind that baby.
More about family and feelings and the true details that make up who and where you are a right now.
Because soon, it's all going to look so different!
Let's capture more of that.
Someday, our children will want to see that story. And we will too.