No one created these “rules of good mother-ing,” but somehow we get ideas into our head about these insane expectations. From the way we live our lives day to day to the pictures we take and share… the world can be full of pressure. So in case you need permission to go against the grain, allow me to remind you—
You never realize just how much you learned from your mom until you stop and realize she's pretty much the backbone of all your values, quirks, and habits. You also never realize just how little you can do to truly say 'thank you' enough for all the crap you put her through growing up.Read More
Today is Valentines Day, which --okay, it really doesn't really mean a whole lot. It is, however, a day in which our society chooses to celebrate love and I love love so I also enjoy an excuse to spread a little extra of it around.
I was thinking back to all the Valentines Days of my past, who I was with, how they played out, and it made me realize just how much I've grown in my understanding of relationships throughout it all.Read More
Last week, many of our local parents sent their kiddos back to school, and I don't care who you are or what you do or how old your kids are, the moments after you wave goodbye are bound to tug at your heartstrings.
But this post isn't about what kind of schools are best, or what age you should/not send your child to school, or the nature of working parents vs stay-at-home parents vs work from home parents, or even the heart behind our own family decisions regarding childcare. I mean, just google "sending a child to preschool" or "first day of school" and you'll get an overwhelming list of "10 ways to prepare for the first day" or "5 reasons why (insert type of education) is the best choice for your child" to make you question yourself, your security, and your capability as a parent. People are so passionate about their childcare and education decisions, and to be fair, I think they should be because they're important.
It's just that sometimes, we get too hung up on shouting into the abyss to defend our decisions to the world instead of harnessing those passions for ourselves and our children.Read More
Have you ever found yourself in a crucial moment where everything sort-of freezes and you swear you can see those little angel/devil characters pop up on your shoulders? Not the life or death, danger vs. responsible stuff, but the kind of decision that requires you to push your limits.
The kind of moment that makes you want to simultaneously run towards the excitement and run away at the same time.
The kind of moment when you have the choice between doing things like you've always done them or stepping out on a limb.Read More
You little social butterfly, you've been invited to dinner. You're going over for a playdate. You're taking some fresh-baked cookies to a new neighbor.
Whether you're in their home for 2 minutes or 2 days, I can almost guarantee there's one thing you do every time without fail within the first few seconds you enter. I know because I do it too. It's inevitable. Your eyes dart around and you always notice one thing that holds your glance.Read More
When we moved to Hawaii, we settled in a quiet, beach town called Kailua on Oahu in which I could walk from our tiny apartment a mile in any direction and have the sand and ocean on my feet or a cup of coffee and a bagel in my hand. Upon moving, we quickly became regulars at an adorable coffee shop call Morning Brew and during the week, I would often tote my laptop and photography books there, set up shop at a table by an open window adjacent from the school yard where I wasn't employing my degree, and buckle down on my new education with a cup of chai spiced determination.
On days when that brand of fuel didn't seem to cut it, I would head next door to another local joint called Book Ends. Boy, did it feed my soul.Read More
With our 4 year anniversary coming up tomorrow, I am (surprise) feeling nostalgic. I think of how it all started with this man and where we are now-- a road I never could have imagined even though God surely did.
A little background:
For those who don't know our story, here's a brief background:
After 10 months of dating long distance, seeing each other on weekends, taking short trips together on time off from school or work, meeting each other's families, and falling crazy in love, he popped the question while on leave from training in December 2010. I was in my senior year of college and he was about to move to Hawaii. Buried in our own lives of graduate school in Virginia vs. hazardous military missions in undisclosed locations - our lives were worlds apart in more ways than one but we somehow spent that year and a half engagement growing even closer.Read More
You never realize just how much you learned from your mom until you stop and realize she's pretty much the backbone of all your values, quirks, and habits. You also never realize just how little you can do to truly say 'thank you' enough for all the crap you put her through growing up. From the chores you didn't want to do to the clothes you didn't want to wear to the curfews you didn't want to obey -- but you get it now.
With mother's day approaching, I've been thinking a lot about all the amazing influence my own mama has had in my life. There are millions of lessons she taught me over the years without even knowing it, simply by setting an example of the kind and loving woman she is. I managed to make this list of just a few of those lessons that hold stories and wisdom I can only hope to pass along to my kids one day as well.Read More
Though my almost 6 month old baby is a very real part of my daily life now, I still sometimes look at her with amazement and can't believe she's ours. She has changed my world so completely and in the most unpredictable ways. This is a list of just a few of the little, behind-the-scenes things I've discovered in the short 6 months of motherhood to tag on to the job description:Read More
If you are a mom and you're reading this post, I want you to stop and consider something:
When was the last time you had a professional photo taken with your kids?
Not a selfie. Not one snapped by your brother at the family dinner on Easter. Like a actual shoot where you actually did you hair and your kids don't have applesauce on their face and you look like you genuinely love each other, not like someone caught you stealing cookies from the cookie jar.
Chances are it's been a while.Read More
While the flexibility of working from home is always appealing, most people cringe as they imagine their productivity levels plummeting from the idea. Remote work and home businesses are on the rise, however, so it's ever more prevalent for people to find ways to manage the work load among regular household duties, raising kiddos, and oh my gosh the dog keeps barking.Read More